This one might hit deep… so I want you to really take a moment and reflect with me. 

Have you ever found yourself caught in a cycle of frustration, waiting for things to change in your relationship, yet nothing seems to shift?

You feel unheard, disconnected, and the more you try, the more you feel like you’re just spinning your wheels.

I hear this often from women in my community, and it was something Lori shared with me in our recent conversation. She bravely opened up about her marriage… how, even after years of growth, doing the work, and seeking healing, her relationship still hit a wall. 

The bitterness was creeping in, and she felt critiqued and shut down. Can you relate to that feeling?

It’s easy to fall into the trap of playing the victim in our relationships. We get stuck in our pain, in the things that aren’t working, and we wait for someone else to change. So where does healing come in? 

When you stop looking outside yourself for the solution and start taking a hard, honest look at how we’re showing up in the situation.

In Lori’s case, she realized that she had been unconsciously playing the victim, allowing past hurts and old patterns to dictate how she interacted with her partner. 

You see, healing doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not just about that one conversation or breakthrough moment. It’s about the daily decision to show up differently. To speak your truth, to be vulnerable, and to make conscious choices, even when it’s hard.

We dive into all of this in this episode of the Decide to Heal podcast with Lori.

Here’s a sneak peek of what you’ll hear:

✨ Lori’s soul-baring conversation that shifted everything

✨ The moment Lori realized she had been playing the victim

✨ How childhood wounds shape our relationships

✨ The two core issues that might be keeping you stuck in your marriage

✨ Why speaking your truth is the key to moving forward

✨ The “Golden Key” to changing your relationship dynamic

🎧 Listen to the full episode here!

So… how are you showing up in your relationships? 

Are you waiting for someone else to change? Or are you willing to take ownership of your part in the healing process?

Remember, healing starts with YOU.